Let Me Finish, Issue #1 - He Only Called You Fat Because He's Worried About Your Heart

Let’s just be mature for once and admit that maybe you overreacted. He didn’t call you fat to hurt you—he said it while laughing. That’s a bonding mechanism in his family. He was including you. Do you want to be part of his world or not? And about the cousin thing? He barely flirted. A light thigh graze, one whisper during Scattergories, and suddenly you’re accusing him of incest? Grow up. He’s affectionate. That’s how healers heal—with intimacy.

You keep saying he “gaslights” you, but maybe you just don’t like hearing the truth.
Is it gaslighting to remind you that you did cry at Olive Garden because he forgot your name mid-toast? Or is it accountability? He only said “Rachel” once. And anyway, you’re the one who picked a chain restaurant, so.

Let’s also not pretend you’re easy to date.
You had a panic attack because he called you “emotionally seasonal.” Which, by the way, is a poetic and clinical observation. Would you rather he said unstable?

He has never once lied.
You just don’t listen. He told you from day one that he “wasn’t sure what he wanted.” You assumed that meant “a relationship with you.” He meant he wasn’t sure if he was emotionally available or just bored. That’s on you for interpreting.

And you don’t have to be here.
No one’s forcing you to read this. But if you’re still scrolling, still clutching your $6 rosé and screenshotting your pain like it’s a thesis, maybe ask yourself:

What are you getting out of this narrative where you’re the victim?
Is it comfort? Is it moral high ground? Or do you just like the attention of being mistreated more than the boredom of being loved?

Because if he really was as bad as you say, you’d be gone by now.
Right?

Next Week on Let Me Finish:
“It’s Not Cheating If It’s Part of His Saturn Return”
Why your karmic jealousy is standing in the way of his soul’s erotic evolution.

Questions? Thoughts? Apologies?
Email me at ts.claus@spaceflotsam.com, but don’t get weird if I don’t write back right away. I’m not ignoring you—I’m just “off grid for self-work.” If it’s urgent, text me something cryptic and lowercase like “we need to talk.” I’ll know it’s serious.